Wednesday, August 31, 2005

《绝对SUPERSTAR》闹翻天?

这两个星期以来,报章上及杂志上不断出现《绝对SUPERSTAR》歌迷之间的骂战。觉得这一切根本毫无意义。
一切已成定局,不论再争什么,又或再吵什么;都无法改变结果。况且,不论那一晚谁夺冠,都可能会引起异议。若是俊扬夺冠,伟联迷或许就会不甘,说他们投下这么多票,伟联不可能会输。 又或影射主办当局因为伟联的视障而否定他。若是欣卉赢了,大家又可能会说,她靠的是大马人民的支持,人多势众,自然能夺冠。有者更可能说以欣卉的外型及造型根本就没有SUPERSTAR的风范,怎可能夺冠?公说公有理,婆说婆有理;到底谁有理,实在难评理。
本人狗胆说一句,这项比赛怎么看,都不可能公平。以投票制度来评选下一关的入围者,实在难公平。大家大可拉票,买票来投选。即使一人一票制,还是有人有法子买票来进行投选。所以说,又哪来的公平可言?若说仅以评判的评分为标准,评审的评分到时可能就不一样了,毕竟当中多数参赛者都在评判所属的训练学院学歌唱技巧,若当中有出众的学员夺冠必将为其学院增添不少的声色。而其实已有学院以大决赛入围者来大肆宣传,以作招生之用。
大伙儿闹翻了天,谁是大赢家呢?想必是主办当局吧,免费的宣传,不许费神,却能增添看头,何乐而不为呢?
其实四位入围者的实力都不相上下,谁赢谁输,现在还言之过早!像当日以美貌夺冠的才华得主,李锦梅,不也以美貌把同分的黄素芳踢下擂台而引起颇大的回响。开始演戏时,她的演技颇受争议。过了许久,她终于以精湛的演技使大家信服。
所以说,今日的优胜者未必能成为明日巨星;今日的平凡人未必不能成为明日闪亮之星。歌迷们与其毫无意义地争辩个你死我活,倒不如留待他们日后在舞台上一较高低,大家又何须伤透了脑筋?

Tuesday, August 30, 2005

不再有悲伤、不再有离别、不再有心痛的那种世界?

不再有悲伤、不再有离别、不再有心痛的那种世界 -- 天国。

如果说,无法与心爱的人及至亲的人在同一个国度里;即使身处天国,你是否能够快乐起来?你是否能够不再有悲伤、不再有离别、不再有心痛的感觉???

Monday, August 29, 2005

“不怕一万,只怕万一”系情缘

已记不起我们是何时相识的,是1986年呢还是1987年,印象已有点模糊。然而,您在我心中却丝毫不模糊。

谁会想到不经意的一句,“不怕一万,只怕万一”,竟让你我结下不解之缘。不禁又回到第一次接触的那片刻。您打电话寻找家父,奈何他不在,您又询问了家母,我于是对您发出一系列的问题让您措手不及。您不解我为何一连串地问,“我母亲叫什么名?”,“我父亲的工厂在哪里?”,“父亲工厂的电话号码是什么?”等等…我脱口而出地说,“不怕一万,只怕万一嘛”您听后咯咯的笑并留下联络号码以便家父回电接洽。

“不怕一万,只怕万一”这新学会的句子,是从前一晚《小人物的心声》中学到的,已不记得剧情是如何,只记得内容讲述不要轻易相信他人,防人之心不可无。

就这样简单的一句话,让您对我留下了深刻的印象,更是对我疼爱有加。接下来,您把一本本签了名的作品送到家父手中,托他交给我。

后来有幸见到您本尊,觉得您既和蔼又可亲,对您的博学多才更是敬佩。由于我们都拥有同样的姓氏,您总爱说我们五百年前是一家人,因此才会如此有亲切感。

对画画十分有兴趣的我,对您家中准备拿去展销的一幅画爱不释手,哪知您在一个月后把画送到寒舍,让我受宠若惊。 你知道我对画画极有兴趣,还把令公子以往在南洋艺术学院的实践品送来让我揣摩。

以往,每逢新年期间都会伴随父母上门祝贺。直到三、四年前吧,我开始不愿意上门拜访。由于年龄已老大不小了,感情却未有归宿,您十分之操心并一直想要替我牵红线,这却令我倍感压力而不想上门拜访。而恰巧这两、三年来父亲在新年期间有事要办也没前去拜访您…

去年父亲接到一同令公子的电话,想要做家具,却在同一时刻获知您已逝世好一阵的恶讯。我听到这消息的一刹那真的乱了阵脚,不知所措。有幸得到您的错爱却不加以珍惜;您的关爱,我却视为压力;一再的躲避反而促成大错;即使后悔也太迟了…

蔡伯伯,我不敢奢求您原谅我,但我深信您在云的另一端,早已原谅了我…不是吗?

Saturday, August 27, 2005

一首动人歌曲

走出黑暗的世界
词:庄淑珍 曲:柯贵民
唱:陈洁仪

走出黑暗的世界吧 朋友
虽然外头依然是漆黑一片
然而那里有暖和的阳光
有轻轻吹拂的风

走出黑暗的世界吧 朋友
虽然外头依旧是漆黑一片
然而那里有花儿的芬芳
有人间真情的温暖

只要你把你的双手伸出来
把你的心窗打开
你的眼睛 已被无情的手遮掩
请不要让心灵也给掩盖

走出黑暗的世界吧 朋友
关心你的朋友们在切切期盼
希望你和他们分享生命的署光
陪伴你走过漫长的黑暗


每每听到这首歌曲,心中就会有一种莫名的感动。庄淑珍的词写得极为感人、极有意义。每次听到这首歌就会想起那年就读理工学院二年级时留级重修后却仍不及格的日子。留级重修后却仍落到不及格还得再度重考的下场,这样的打击实在不小。甚至开始怀疑自己是否是念书的料。等待重考的日子对我来说,是一段极为黑暗的日子,所幸周围的朋友对我不弃不舍,不断的鼓励我。好不容易终于熬过了这段艰辛的日子,有幸朋友伴我度过漫长、黑暗的日子并一同走出黑暗的世界… 

朋友们,有你的日子我不再担心、害怕黑暗的日子…

你是何年何月何日生?…


Xi-yuan seemed to be feeling restless & bored, so I accompanied her to watch " The Maid" on yesterday. The storyline is easy to guess, nothing fantastic. So is it scary enough to scare you out of wits? Sorry to disappoint you, the answer is no. The most scary part about the whole movie is the stero sound effect which scares you for every now and then. No particular scene that makes your goose pimples popping up or causes you to have insomnia for the night.

However, it seems that the movie had managed to obtained much publicity with their extensive advertisements that people of other races also turned up for the movie and all with similar comments after viewing the movie. Even Autumn who never goes for ghost movie but eventually watched the movie by chance, commented the movie is not scary at all.

If you are looking for a ghost movie that really thrills & horrors you, the maid may not be able to satisfy your needs.


Picture downloaded from Channel News Asia webpage: http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/entertainment/view/163978/1/.html

Friday, August 26, 2005

被遗漏的宝

上图书馆,来到新加坡书籍部门,无意间找到女艺人,范文方《笔方说》的插画本。突然试想不知图书馆里是否也收藏着蔡伯伯的作品。使用电脑咨询,奈何结果令人失望。好可惜,蔡伯伯为教育及艺术所作出的贡献并没有获得相等的认同… 或许他的其中一些作品已不应时,可是总觉得被图书馆遗漏了好可惜,因为那些作品亦可显现时代的差异所构成文路及风格的不同,让后代能够了解新加坡创作的转变。

蔡伯伯的劳心劳力虽然被图书馆遗漏了,然而想必没被那些您曾造福过的许多70年代的学生给遗忘;而我有幸是获益人之一。蔡伯伯,您可算是我的启蒙“老师”。是您让我更热爱华文,是您启发我进行华文创作。谢谢您!

希望您在云的另一端一切安好…

Saturday, August 20, 2005

感谢你成为我生命的一部分… 

歌曲:感谢
歌手:屠洪刚

感谢我的爸爸
感谢我的妈妈
感谢您们
当初决定把我生下
感谢您们
让我看到这个世界

还把我辛苦养大
还给我一个温暖的家
感谢我的老师
是您们教我学文化
才有现在的我
在人前还算不差
请原谅当初玩皮的我
不太听您们的话
听说您还留着我从前
写的检查写的检查
感谢我的朋友
是你们伴我长大
没有你们这世界该是多么寂寞可怕
多少次争吵和忘情的欢笑
和多少次的酒后真话
友谊二字包含着多少酸甜苦辣
感谢在人海之中
认识一个您
让我为您疯狂
为您牵挂
为您痴迷
多少阴错阳差
行若如云爱如漫絮
感谢上帝
把您和我安排在一起
还记得吗
您忘了吗
我们的笑我们的泪
和青春年华
还记得吗
您忘了吗
我们爱过的人
说过的话
和所有心灵的火花
和心灵火花
谢谢


无意间在网络找到这歌词,虽然没听过这首歌却被它的词牵动着。
生命中有太多的人要感谢,不知从何说起…
感谢老爸老妈把我带入这个世界,含辛茹苦抚育我;虽然我总是埋怨你们将我生得如此平凡、眉毛稀薄、毛发自然圈;虽然我总是嫌你们唠叨不已。
感谢弟妹陪我一起成长,虽然我们从小到大,不是打架便是争吵。偶尔的争执其实为乏味的生活增添另类色彩。
感谢所有亲戚长辈们的叮咛,虽然有时觉得你们好烦。
感谢所有恩师给予指导、教诲、及鼓励,教我发奋图强,朝向自己的梦想飞奔;奈何我还在探索中,未能众望所归。
感谢所有的朋友,陪我度过每个喜怒哀乐的时光、在我生命低潮时对我不舍不弃、在我迷失方向时拉我一把。即使在繁忙的日子里减少见面,友谊却丝毫不减。
感谢认识你,在我悲戚时借我肩膀依靠;在我耍性子时对我包容万分;在我不知所措时为我分析状况。
感谢有音乐 ,作为心灵的治疗;动人旋律,触动心扉、在我脑海中荡气回肠…
感谢那些不认识的陌生人,你的偶然一笑为这世界增添了欢娱的气氛。
最后,我要特别感谢一位在我心中占有非常重要位置的人,敬爱的山岜老人ˉˉ蔡哲明先生。很遗憾未能到您灵前一拜… 您总是宜师宜友般对待我、更对我宠爱有加、处处关心我;虽然我们毫无血缘关系,或许就因为我们五百年前可能是一家人的关系吧,冥冥中似有渊缘。您将永在我记忆中… 每每想到您,情绪便不能受控。蔡伯伯,您在云的另一端过得还好吧?

Thursday, August 18, 2005

Hot Discussion on Project Superstar

Well, today the hot topic is definitely "Project Superstar" programme. It's really very hard to predict who will win as there are many factors to contribute to each individual's winning.

I feel that overall, Junyang performance is generally much BETTER than Wei Lian in most rounds, but I love Wei lian's voice as it always touches me esp in sentimental songs. Wei Lian's yesterday's performance is not as good as compared to Junyang, but his yesterday's moves really touches my heart. Though both are sick, but I think Kelvin is still at a loosing end as blocked noose affected not only voice, but as well as breathing which may affect the pace of changing breathe, etc...

I personally favours Wei Lian, but will he win? I guess chances are slim, unless the singing company deceide to change strategy to groom him as a unique star like "Ou De Yang"? However, people are suggesting that miracle may happen since many people will vote him out of sympathy. I hate the word sympathy, why sympathy? Vote him because of his courage and most importantly his voice! Kelvin definitely deserves more than that!

Don't forget, among the last 4 contestants, he's the only one who has never undergone formal training before. If given formal training, he'll definitely perform even much better. Wei Lian's voice alone is enough to touch people's hearts. His courage is enough to motivate people to dare for your dream! He is smply great! He is like a glamourous as a star. I do hope miracle will happen.

As for the female contestants, Kelly performace has constantly fare well too. At Times, Xinhui's performance is not up to expectations, esp. when she chose the wrong song. However, her voice is simply powerful and have made vast improvement in her singing skills during the last few rounds. Xinhui's dressing sense do sucks at times. I think she needs to attend some grooming classes to have a better sense of dressing.

Again, people are suggesting that the neighbouring audience will vote hard for Xinhui. Com' on, she do have her strength. I don't speak for her because we come from the same country, but I really think that she can SING! Being a part of the neighbouring country, I would say, my fellows may support Xinhua spiritually, but to spend approx. RM$1.50 on a vote will probably make them think twice, especially when they get a meal as cheap as RM$2.00 only. As what I have mentioned, if tonight she managed to outshine Kelly, she'll have high chance of winning!

Anyway, these last 4 contestants do have their own strength. Whether who will win, it really depends on a lot of factors? Depending if there's any "kelong", depending on who's got more friends, audience & money to make calls & sms to support them, as well as their live performance.

So who do you think will win???

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

若要支持伟联,请因为他的实力而支持他,不要因为同情!请给他应有的尊重!

“若要支持伟联,请因为他的实力而支持他,不要因为同情!请给他应有的尊重!” 这是我想对投伟联一票的观众说的一句话。他需要的是肯定,而不是同情!这句话我也同样对我五十高龄的母亲说,我不反对她拨电投伟联一票,但反对她以同情为由,这对伟联十分不公平!

虽然伟联不是表现得最好的一位,可是他那股坚定的毅力,残而不废的精神是值得我们学习的!他虽然没有绝佳的歌唱技巧,但,凭着自己摸索歌唱,这样的歌艺已算不俗。他当然无法在舞台上有太多或太大的肢体语言,可今晚他努力走台步的确精神可嘉。

朋友问我为何没投伟联一票,我说我不是很相信这种投票制度。况且,严格来说,俊扬的总体表现比较能够呈现《绝对SUPERSTAR》的气势,以事论事,我相信俊扬会入围下一关。

其实,如我早前说过,即使伟联无法入围最后一关,他已是《绝对SUPERSTAR》,在大家面前发亮发光! 我相信他参加《绝对SUPERSTAR》也起着不小的作用,启发大家勇敢追逐梦想!并说明视障人士也有权力追逐自己的一片天。

寻找心〔新〕方向

这首诗特别献给那些迷失于爱情当中的朋友…

朋友,
爱情是盲目的,
可是,
为爱迷失自己是可悲的。
朋友,
振作起来吧,
给自己一个机会,
寻找心〔新〕方向,
或许,
就不会这么痛苦了…

Friday, August 12, 2005

《绝对SUPERSTAR》讲透透

今天揭晓《绝对SUPERSTAR》第四场半决赛的成绩,Silver 和维健被踢出局了。维健被踢出局有点意外,可这是令人值得鼓舞的!因为这表示伟联入围下一回合。莫非为了大局着想,维健因此得说再见。就快要入伍了,若花大笔钱在他身上,或许不易回本。然而维健还很年轻,机会多的是。退伍后还大有作为,希望他能在服兵役期间多加锻炼体魄、改进歌艺,并纠正咬字不清的毛病。将来大有作为。况且谁知道,搞不好,他会成为另一个Slyvester?

Silver被踢出局,我丝毫不感到意外。以她的歌艺来说,能够进入这个阶段已算很不错了。况且她的唱功的确有待进步,声音太弱了点儿…

欣卉若能继续保持相等的水准必能将嘉丽打败,不过还得在外型方面多下苦功,加油喔!

其实到了现阶段,不论谁是最后的SUPERSTAR,我已无多大的争议了。因为这四位参赛者我都颇为欣赏!因此,大伙儿多加努力吧!接下来就看你们的临场表现和造型设计了。

Cheers!!!

Scribblings Found!

Again, ugly sights can be seen everwhere even though Singapore is well known for its cleanliness. Found the below scribblings on the wall in one of the toilets at Parco Bugis.

Hmm... Wonder what's the exact message that the author is trying to convey - Friendship is Great but Kinship is even Greater (友情诚可贵,亲情价更贵)? Would the author discreetly drop me a message to enlighten me, I promised! I will not reveal your identity nor report you to the police for vandalism...


Ugly Sights in MRT

Incident 1 - 10/08/2005
Yesterday was on board the MRT with two ladies sitting beside me. The train was rather packed as it is around 6.30pm when most people would have knocked off and on their way to home or to "party". When one of the ladies beside me got off from her seat to alight the train, many tired people stared hard at the vacant seat but no one approached it at all... I took a look at the seat and shook my head with a slight sigh... The lady beside me told me "It was already there before she seated on it". This really put me to shame for making assumptions that was untrue & unfair to the lady who board off the train.

What happened exactly? You must be curious huh? There was blood stain left on the seat, and naturally I suspect it was a surprise left by the earlier lady who sat on the seat. Actually I had my digital camera with me and I even took a shot of it, but somehow feel that it looked digusting and now is hesitating whether to post it on site.

Another thing that I wanna say, it is no wonder people say "NEVER assume" as it make an ass out of U & Me!!!

Incident 2 - 11/08/2005
Today when I took a train to work, this lady who wanna to sit beside me just simply rest her bum on my bag instead of the MRT seat. And most sickenly of all, she just shake her bon bon, adjust her seating position without saying SORRY! I stared so hard at her and yet she simply treat me like TRANSPARENT! But I guess the guy seating opposite me must be wondering why am I staring so hard at the lady beside me. If you ever get to read my blog, now you'll know why!

Why is it so difficult to say SORRY??? Simply ill-mannered! mailto:*@!&#

Incident 3 - 11/08/2005
On the same train there was this lady who seemed to be pregnant and I saw her keep rolling the tissue in her palms, then she started to massage her palms and fingers and rubbed the tissues into a ball form then to stick form. I don't understand what's the rationale of doing this. I can
only see that tissue bits are falling all around her seat and even on her bag. Hey! Do you know that you are considered "Littering" by spreading those tiny tissue bits on the train's ground???

Wednesday, August 10, 2005

预测《绝对SUPERSTAR》二强

《绝对SUPERSTAR》越来越紧张,究竟谁会在这一回合被淘汰呢?而谁又会成为最后的二强呢?

说实话,我本身是支持伟联的,在我心中他绝对是SUPERSTAR,勇敢面对舆论参赛,抱着不死精神面对挑战,不懈努力改进歌艺。奈何这个比赛寻找的是SUPERSTAR(巨星),所以,能唱是不足够的,还得能跳、能“看”〔这里的“能看”指的是有迷人的外貌〕。虽然伟联样子还不赖,可是在众男参赛者当中仅属一般。支持归支持,现实的残酷不得不面对。 不论结果如何,伟联的实力,大家是有目共睹的!!!

其实,比赛从一开始时已很明显是维健和嘉丽的天下。为何这么说呢?嘉丽以出众的歌艺、亮丽的外貌深得人心(观众与评判的心)。而众评判嘴里总赞维健如何可爱、俊俏,并多次赞他可塑性高,尽管他的歌艺只属普通。因此他俩在角逐复赛时被淘汰,进入翻身战可说让我大跌眼镜。与此同时,我也不禁怀疑一切乃宣传伎俩。

然而,由于维健即将入伍,俊杨这匹黑马极有可能“脱颖而出”。论歌艺,俊杨略胜一筹;论外貌,俊杨越看越耐看,越看越好看;因此他极有可能将维健踢出局。可是大家都说娱乐圈黑暗,他是否斗得了这股黑色势力就不置可否了…

女参赛者可说是一面倒,嘉丽既能唱、又能跳,还能“看”,几乎没得挑。然而欣卉的实力不容忽视,在一番包装下别有一番韵味;时而有爆发力的歌声让人惊叹不已。

本人斗胆预测《绝对SUPERSTAR》的最后二强为维健与嘉丽,虽然心中理想的二强为俊杨与嘉丽。你呢?你又作何预测呢?

Friday, August 05, 2005

Hey! Where are all your manners?

I do not understand why nowadays, people are getting more & more stingy... They are getting so stingy that I no longer can tolerate with them!

Stingy with $$$? I still can understand, at least this helps you "build up" your wealth huh? But, why one need to be stingy with the basic manners? Why is it so difficult to say "Please", "Excuse Me", "Sorry", "Thanks"? By saying all these, you will not have any cents lesser! And worse of all, stingy with a big warm smile... Or maybe you are just too shy to show your yellowish, stained teeth?

Com'on, these are just some basic manners! If you can't even do such simple stuff, how do you expect the world to change for the better, and become a better place to live in?

At times, I offer my seat to the more "needy ones", they simply take over the seat without saying thanks. Not that I need you to show me gratitude just because I offer my seat to you, but, can you at least show me a smiling face? This helps to brighten up my day.

Many times, people stepped on my foot without saying "Sorry", some even stared at me as if it was my fault. While others simply turned their face away, and not even a sense of guilt! How do I react? Well, if I'm in a good mood, I'll forgive them. If not, I will stare at them & simply say loudly, "Some people simply don't know how to say sorry, what RUDE manners!!!" Often, I see that stranger's face turned red from embarrassment after my stmt. Ha, serve you right!

Not sure if you are aware of the left-right rule of using the escalators. The right side of the escalators are meant for people rushing for time. But many times, idiots simply stand there and even if they can hear from behind that someone rushing up the escalators, they remained stand still. Well, if I have asked for you to "excuse me" and you simply love to be a statue, sorry, I will just have to knock my way through!

Many times people just pushed their way out of the congested train without saying "Excuse Me", they can't even be bothered if they have knocked against you. In some other instances, people simply remained stagnant without giving way, even when you ask them to kindly excuse you so that you can get out of the train cabin. For these idiots, I have my own way to deal with them. I'll try to be nice and polite to them, telling them to please excuse me. Should after having said 3x of "Excuse Me" and still no response/reaction from them, I will push my way through, purposely knocking them to give them a taste of being so inconsiderate! So, am I considered as rude for purposely knocking them, but not forgetting that prior to that, I have politely requested for "Excuse Me" 3x??? I have no answer to that... Just like I have no answer to whether I'm a devil or an angel...

Judgement Time!

A message from Friendster:

From: xxxxxx
Subject: You've got Male!
Message: Hi, xx! You are beautiful. I like you. What say you we get things started and you let me sms you on your mobile phone? Let's get in touch. Cheers.

Reply to the message:

From: xx
Subject: Re:You've got Male!
Oops! (Gulp)Hi, xxxxxx. Guess you r mistaken by the primary display pix. It's a pix of a Japanese Music group - Do As Infinity, and the lady in the pix is the lead singer. I'm juz a plain looking gal, heeeheee.... So sorry to have mislead you :P Pai Seh ler...
Rgds,
xx

After this reply, guess what happened? No more response lah! Of course! Haha... Can I say that this guy is creative/witty to play with the word pun of Male(Mail)? Or Should I say that he is very direct, hits to the nail? I would think that he is shallow indeed, to vanish in thin air upon hearing Devilz-Angel is a plain looking gal... Anyway, who cares? Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder. How plain looking is to be considered plain looking? How beautiful is to be considered as beautiful? It all depends on individual's perception.

On second thoughts, could he had been too embarrassed to wanna continue befriend Devilz-Angel? Errr...? Maybe I should not be too quick to make judgement huh?

Now, you must be real curious about the photo that misled xxxxxx to believing that Devilz-Angel is very beautiful huh? Here it is ...



P/S: Devilz-Angel simply love the composition of the above photo, that's why it is displayed as the primary photo in friendster. However after this incident, this is no more Devilz-Angel's primary photo. To avoid similar scenario, ha...

Thursday, August 04, 2005

The Contradictions in LOVE

Came across the below phrase which I think is meaningful and would like to share with you guys...

Love is very patient, but we are mostly impatient.
Love is very kind, but we are frequently unkind.
Love knows no jealousy, but we are often jealous.
Love makes no parade, but we are proud.
Love is never rude, but we are often rude and ill mannered.
Love is never selfish, but we are mostly self-centered.
Love never gets irritated, but we are short-tempered very often.
Love is never resentful, but we seem to look for slights and wrongs and make note of it.
Love is never glad when someone else goes wrong, but we often take secret delight in someone else's failure.
Love is gladdened by goodness, and is always slow to expose and eager to believe the best, but we are often judgmental.

Something worth pondering: Angels are supposed to be angelic but there are times of devilish acts. Are Angels no more Angels by these acts? Or have Angels transformed to Devils upon these acts?

Why Can't We be Polite to Our Loved Ones as to People Whom We Are NOT related?

Why is it that we can be so rude, short-tempered, and impatient with the folks that we love the most, yet would never consider behaving in this manner with people that we are not related to? The answer lies in the dynamics of family life. We have to put up with one another, no matter what. Most family members admit to loving each other, if not exactly liking the other guy every single moment. In other words, we're kind of stuck with a grumpy Grandpa, a nagging Mom, an inconsiderate older sister, or a rambunctious little brother. They're not going anywhere and neither are we. This leads to a tendency to take one another for granted. That's normal and part of the nature of family life in most homes. We are not on our best behavior because we are so used to each other, assume that members will always be there, and are often so absorbed in our own needs and activities that we cannot see beyond the tips of our collective noses.

That often leads to a distinct family dynamic that is impolite, rude, or even offensive. In other words, we get relationship-lazy, and it's an insidious process. Not only are the kids culprits but so are Mom and Dad. Many parents barely get in a few sentences to each other, let alone polite conversation, before dinner has to be made, dishes done, homework supervised, and baths completed. Often children see their folks barking out commands to one another with rarely a civil word spoken. And these are not necessarily folks whose marriages are in trouble — they are just too busy, preoccupied, or stressed out to take the time to see how they are miscommunicating and too distant, lazy, or frightened to make some changes.

Hope the above extract can help to clarify xi-yuan's doubt on why she still can hold her cool towards her colleague but not with her mum.

"Devil or Angel" Hmm, interesting! Hi, xi-yuan, welcomed to the wonderland of Devilz Heaven, hahaha...

Tuesday, August 02, 2005

爱,就请施舍一点时间

你或许没察觉,我眼里的寂寞……
你或许没发现,我眼角流的泪……
不是不谅解,我心底很明白,
你不懈工作,是为了打造你我的未来。
心中的无奈,你是否能理解?
不求穿金戴银,不求奢华生活。
我只想对你说,“爱,就请施舍一点时间。”
我需要你施舍稍片刻,给我多一点关怀……

Monday, August 01, 2005

《绝对SUPERSTAR 》绝对劲爆讲

* 某女参赛者的姐姐,大肆分发观赛入门票,但条件是必须坐在支持女参赛者的观众席上,大力表示支持 。
*某男参赛者的“干妹妹”,发送大量的E-mails, 要求亲朋好友们多多支持她的“干哥哥”。
*某男参赛者借着以往就读的新加坡大学校友会的力挺,顺利闯入一关有一关。
*某男参赛者的姐姐,一人拨了900通热线电话支持他,可他仍出局,得靠翻身赛进入半决赛。
*许多参赛者都有拨热线电话,自己支持自己。
*多数的参赛者都是台下评判的学生。

其实以上所列,有者已刊登于某周刊。 我所要说的是, 以这样的趋势来说,所谓的观众缘, 根本就是瞎扯!只要有钱有势,要赢不难。只要亲朋好友够多,想赢不难。如有前学府或就读学府的大力支持,想赢应该不难。如台下评判是恩师,胜出的机会是否又会高一点?

所谓热线投票制度,根本无透明度,一人多票制,又怎能说明谁最受欢迎; 其中一些翻身赛的参赛者明明是大热门却栽跟头,搞不好其实也是计划当中。

近年来,越来越多类似的比赛,表面上是要栽培有潜质的新星,可是却不见任何闪亮的星。只见主办当局越来越热衷使用热线投票来选拔下一关的入围者,其实皆因热线投票可带来一笔可观的收入。观众们,您的每一票, 不仅决定了参赛者的“生死”,还能决定主办当局的收入呢!说穿了,《绝对SUPERSTAR》,也只不过是主办当局的另一个赚钱的工具罢了。

什么跟什么嘛?说什么《绝对SUPERSTAR》跟《SINGAPORE IDOL》不一样 ,其实根本就无多大差别嘛,你说是不?